I am who I am

23 Aug 2010 1 Comment

by thatdenisegirl in Uncategorized Tags: happiness, life, love

I was at a work conference this weekend, maybe about 100 people there, I knew roughly half of them. The majority of these were acquaintances that I see at these events, but some were former colleagues and some of them I’d known for over 5 years.

It was lovely to see them all, to catch up with them, hear their stories, and to have work chat with people who really understand.

What wasn’t so lovely was their questioning of me. The general “how are you?”, was followed by “so, what’s happening with your work?” (my work is currently restructuring and rumours are flying round the sector). And once I’d deflected that line of questioning as quickly as possible, the inevitable would be asked.

“How’s your love life?”, “Are you still single?”, “Any men on the go?”. Argh, it infuriates me. Is it so difficult to believe that I’m happy enough single, I manage perfectly well by myself and I don’t need a man by my side to make me happy.

It’s so frustrating! I have a good job, wonderful friends and I live a great life. Yet I’m still judged by whether or not I’m in a relationship.

My work sector is meant to be forward thinking and progressive, and yet I feel people forget it’s 2010, and do you know what, it’s ok, I choose to be single. Don’t pity me! I’m happy, successful and can make plans at the drop of a hat and be spontaneous. I can’t say the same for most of my coupled up friends.